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September 01, 2010

Peter Monn and my Debt of Gratitude

His name is Peter Monn and I owe him a debt I can never repay.  Our relationship is complex.  He is a close friend...he is like a son...he is a counselor...he is a brother in recovery and I owe him a debt I never wanted to incur. A debt I would give almost anything not to owe...but life is never that forgiving.  Nine years ago he was my son David's aftercare counselor at the addiction treatment center .  David's relationship with Peter was also complex.  He liked Peter a lot and at the same time was wary of him because he could always count on him to see through his bullshit.

On the day that David died in a drug related drowning I was 1700 miles away...something I will regret for the rest of my life.  And yet I will forever find great comfort in the fact that in those first unspeakable moments and hours while my wife was trying desperately to reach me...she reached out to Peter and he rushed to the hospital to be with her and my other son.  He was there when it was clear David was gone...He was there when the doctors gave up their valiant efforts......he was there to share in pain, the anguish, the devastation...and most of all...he was there when I could not be. 

And for that I will be forever grateful, and in the debt of my friend, my counselor, my son, my brother...


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